Healthy Masculinity Life Hacks For Men #11
Fuck ‘Hacks’, Go Deep
The world doesn’t need another shortcut to mastery.
Depth can’t be hacked. Sorry.
It comes from years of commitment to something larger than yourself.
Deep sex, or deep stillness, deep openness, or the creation of great art, is the result of repeated practice. Especially when we don’t want to.
Depth comes from facing death in the form of not only physical challenge, but possibly financial failure, emotional collapse, and ego dissolution.
The trait of depth, versus a temporary state of depth brought on by a practice, is developed over time. It comes from dedicating ourselves to a modality that makes us stronger, more available to the world, or to another human being.
Depth requires us to face the part of us that wants to quit or take short cuts and to open through our natural fight or flight impulses to a place that is untouchable.
‘Hacks’ cut us off from the possibility of exponential growth that comes once we have passed the point of saturation.
Think of anyone you know who is truly artful at what they do or who they are. My guess is they have committed to one spiritual, physical, or embodied practice that has served as a foundation for whatever else they have added.
So if you’re reading this blog, fuck hacks, go deep.
Find someone that inspires you and study with them for at least a year.
Commit to mastering one modality – be it meditation, sexual practice, Yoga, martial arts, or physical fitness.
Stay longer than you want to.
Deal with your childhood programming getting triggered that tells you “fuck this, I can do better on my own”.
Only then will the teaching wind its way into your nervous system. So that you automatically respond in a way that inspires others and allows you to Be a certain way, rather than simply act a certain way.
If you want your life to unfold as a work of art that expresses the boundless expanse of your consciousness, of who you truly are as a man, fuck hacks, go deep!