How to relax & enjoy receiving oral sex #3:
Embrace the Gift
Receiving oral can be really vulnerable, and not only because of the pressures and insecurities already mentioned.
To receive, you have to open yourself.
You have to take down your guard and let your partner in.
But the vulnerability goes even deeper:
To receive pleasure – to feel good in your body – is an act of self-love and self-worth. And in our current culture, that’s not something we’re terribly good at.
Think about how challenging it can be receiving a compliment. Do you ever:
- Try to humbly deny praise?
- Mumble ‘thanks’ as you awkwardly avoid eye contact?
- Completely deflect a compliment by giving a compliment in return?
Receiving oral sex can be challenging in a similar way. You have to push the edges of your comfort zone by consciously allowing love and appreciation.
But know this – you deserve it. You deserve pleasure. You deserve to feel good. You deserve to be worshipped, loved, and adored. Totally guilt free.
Simply being aware of this can make a big difference in how you receive oral sex. And you can take it a step further by setting an intention to really focus on the act of receiving:
To feel yourself opening, to feel your heart expanding, to feel yourself letting in the love and appreciation that your partner is showing you.
By receiving and enjoying the pleasure of oral sex, you send a powerful message to yourself that you are worthy. It’s radical self love and sexual healing all mixed into one.